RE: "Just Friends" Aye Right!

Before you proceed to read this entry, please click here to read the blog entry which my entry is a response to.

Anyways........

Some of the content I'd have to question slightly but overall I do agree and can see the points the writer is saying. 

But overall women are just bloody hard work!

At times I think, all's fair in love and game.

And for girls, they like playing the game don't they?

I've sure as hell been involved in meaningless games.

To come out of it the loser.

But dignified. 

They like the feeling which the boy is giving the girl.

And I guess who can blame them.

But I think there's a point where the girls can get too far which is...

To depend on him, take him for granted, and then think of him as your wee brother.

I have had friendships, relationships which have turned out like that.

And although I haven't liked every one of them girls.

It does happen to half the world's population.

A guy loves being depended on, I'll admit that.

But the stop line has to be drawn at some point.

When the girl sees something they like, they ask if you could buy it for them.

I guess I do that too, but at the end of the day, I tend to do that out of annoyance and more than less the time, I end up buying it myself.

But the girls are bloody wise as anything and wait until the boy buys it for her.

Not necessarily but a lot of time it is.

They ask you who you fancy...

And if the person you fancy is the one asking you the question, what do you say?

Do you be honest? or make up someone?

Something else which kinda annoys me at times is when they ask you if you like what your wearing.

More than the time, I'll give them my honest answer.

But to then drag it into a 'meaningful' conversation on the part of the lady, I bloody hate.

To me, if you like what your wearing, what does it matter about my opinions and others?

Just get something on.

I don't care.

I guess I'm the rational type. 

Black and White.

Hair as well.

Girls love being complimented on their hairstyle. 

Ooh did you get a haircut?

May look nice, but for me, it wouldn't matter if it was just up, all over the place look or the good few pounds you spent doing it do.

And when you argue with them, and when the dust is settled, they'll continue to hate you forever.

For a guy, I think the thing is forgotten about.

It is for me anyways.

But for a girl, they may say its forgotten, but its not too forgotten because they'll want to use it against you for future gain, or spite.

For petty arguments, girls can really make a big deal out of it. And if you find yourself in that situation boy, I feel its best you leave them, let them be. 

I feel a lot of the time, the guys are the diplomatic ones in the relationship because girls only care about themselves.

They are the world champions in sulking.

I think for a guy, the relationship revolves around both parties.

But for a girl, the relationship revolves around her and what she gets from it.

Is that a fair point?

Anyways a friend said to me recently, if you like someone, don't beat about the bush. Tell him or her as soon as.

The more you hang out with him or her, the more they'll accept you as a friend.

And more time than none, the friend becomes a good friend and then that's it.

Pointless exercise in hanging out with them, and paying for meals, being on the end of their tantrums, doing little favors for him or her, fixing things and driving them places.

Well enough lady bashing.

At the end of the day, I still love them.

They're just bloody hard to figure out, but nothing is easy. And women are the most difficult thing to suss. You might have degrees in rocket science and accountancy, but no one has worked out what the hell a women is thinking. Every man out there is trying to work out the formula. But to no avail.....

PS. I Love You.

Love Forgives the Bad In You.

I often wonder how well behaved my children will be.

Not that I have any children yet but I often feel a bit of dread when I know I have to be around certain babies, toddlers, infants and small children. Some are even more hyper than I am but most of the time, I remember to think that they're only children. They don't know what else to do but be kids.

Some kids I think, how can they're parents cope with all of it...

Then you have children with a disability or two.

They require more of your time, or even all of your time..

I hold those parents in high regard...

I wonder if I will be able to handle it all when my times arrives.

I watched Marley and Me yesterday. And if you haven't already seen it then I suggest that you do before they take it off the screens. But to give you a quick synopsis of what the movie is about is newlyweds starting their lives off as married people, and with it comes what careers to pick, where to go for jobs, what city they would like to live in, and children.

But the movie revolves around a dog called Marley. The newlyweds; John and Jenny Grogran (Owen Wilson and Jennifer Aniston) has just decided to purchase a dog, well it was a birthday surprise from John to Jenny and they happen to pick the 'Clearance Puppy', that's Marley by the way. Don't ask me how the name 'Clearance Puppy' came about... I'm guessing because he looked a little lethargic when J and J went to visit the farm with the puppies, and the owner was selling him cheaper than the rest of his brothers and sisters. But 'Clearance Puppy' turned out to be more than they bargained for.

From the minute Marley walked into the house, he was eating, and chewing anything that looked edible to him. He even chewed on the plasterboard wall.

He just seemed as though he wasn't one to be taught. He just seemed too boisterous. Too hyper and too uncontrollable.

But I think the movie for me really kicks off when J and J decide to start a family. Unfortunately, their first attempt failed, the baby inside died within 9 weeks. But try and you will succeed, second time lucky and Jenny gives birth to a baby boy called Patrick.

A funny moment when Jenny brings baby Patrick home was that both of the parents, well mainly John I guess as it portrays him more worried than Jenny that Marley might think that baby Patrick as a chew toy. However that didn't happen and as Patrick grew up, Dog and child seemed to get along without any hassle for master slash parents.

As the movie progresses, another baby boy comes into the world called Connor. And probably a good few months after the birth of Connor, the marriage begins to strain. Jenny finds it difficult to cope with looking after her two boys and also be on the look out for anything Marley does. And one incident too many, Jenny confronts John when he comes home from work to demand that the dog be sent elsewhere. John thinks this is irrational but does agree to take the dog elsewhere, though John just sends Marley off to a friends for a couple of days. During which Jenny has second thoughts about Marley being away from what Jenny said as Marley's home.

This moment in the movie really spoke with me. Not that I've been in a position where I've had to kick someone out of my home, or I hope that my parents haven't wanted me out of theirs. But Jenny sees pass Marley's bad habits and behaviour and still loves her dog til death do them part. It was a moment in the movie where her relationship with husband seemed to be stormy and John had thoughts, small thoughts though of leaving the relationship. But one of them said to the other that leaving it wasn't right;

Mend it, don't end it.

Thankfully they worked it out and Marley was allowed back home, and the relationship appeared to be stronger than it was.

So moving along, another child enters the world. Baby Colleen.

What could a guy asked for? Jenny Grogan who is smoking hot. Looks like Jennifer Aniston by the way... hehe. And 3 kids. And a dog. You could say 4. And a fantansic home with a pool.

Brilliant. I would love to be in his position.

The one down point for him is that his job isn't his preffered although what he does, he's great at it. What was a temporary role as a columnist for a newspaper became permanent along with a two fold pay rise.

Things seemed to look rosy in the movie. The children grew up into small children, primary school age, Colleen was a little younger, maybe pre-school.

But as with all good things, they have to come to an end.

Unfortunately for Marley, he was well into his advanced years. Along with it came illness.

Marley survived one health scare and seemed as though he could live a lot more longer than he did.

The movie doesn't give you a timescale of when important occurences happened.

Marley just died.....

Something up with his stomach.

The decision was taken by John that Marley had to be enthanised such was the pain he was in I guess.

But the poignant moment in the movie is when Marley laid there on the table, about to be injected with the whatever it is to kill Marley off.

John contemplating life without Marley.

John reminiscing with Marley about the good times they had.

John tells his dog that although he may dubbed the 'worst dog' ever because of all the naughty things he's done.

None of that mattered anymore.

To John, to Jenny, to the children;

He was the perfect dog.

Marley closes his eyes..........

...............

He was buried outside the family home in a moving funeral.

I really felt as though Marley was part of me.

I watched him grow up.

I watched him be the dog that he became.

I loved him too.

But he wasn't. He was make believe.

oops.

He might have been a strain to their marriage, to the family, but love forgives and forgets the wrong in someone.

Like God does with us.

We don't always do what is asked of us, yet I'm sure God will still love us the same.

What a movie.

Go see it.

PS. I Love You.

When All Fails, Love Prevails.

Chris Martin of Coldplay said that "It's weird that whatever else is on your mind, whether it's the downfall of global economics or terrible environmental troubles, the thing that always gets you most is when you fancy someone"

What a quote!

It's so true.

Love does make you do some things you wouldn't do for the Average Joe.

I watched Paul Blart yesterday. It was alright. But the running sub-plot of the movie was this cop fancied this girl who ran a stall in the mall he looked out for. Before we blinked our eyes, he went from seeing this girl, to be almost intimate with her... kinda.

But the movie really takes off when the mall is been invaded by robbers and hostages have been taken in the bank within the mall. Paul Blart played by Kevin James is oblivious to this as he's in the arcade playing Guitar Hero and Singstar. Anyways when he leaves the arcade, he doesn't immediately realise that the mall is in the situation it's in, instead brushing it off as closing time. But when he notices a stray customer as he thought he was, until the so thought customer pulled a gun at him. But he got away.

Blah blah blah.... he managed to get out of the mall but noticing the car of the girl he fancied, he decides to risk his life to go and rescue her, and the hostages.

So on and so on. He does rescue her and his daughter, who some how manage to find herself in that situation... strange. 

Go watch it yourself. It's an okay movie.

But I think the theme of the story is gripping in how someone out of love, risks everything.

A bit like what Jesus did.

Though his risk was one which he had to bare for us.

Paul Blart's wasn't. He could have easily stayed outside, away from the troubles inside.

But instead he went back in and faced the troubles head on.

And sometimes I think, we don't face our troubles.

We like to just hope it will go away.........

Or even sometimes, some walk away from it.

And I'll give you that, sometimes, walking away from the situation is fine.

When I say walking away, I mean walk away but not far away that you won't walk back.

Step back is may be a better phrase.

But walking away...

Some say it's a cowards game.

The troubles lie inside, and if you don't do anything about it, it will eat away at you.

In this movie, if he didn't do anything about it, he wouldn't be seen as a hero in her eyes.

But in reality, we all have gripes hostage in our hearts. 

And only if you release the hostages do things start to look better.

It's only through love that you do so.

It's only through love that everything else prevails.

PS. I Love You.